June 9, 2021
I absolutely adore all things super hero!!! Especially the female characters of course. If you have been following my blog from the beginning then you already know that I ride for my sistahs! So celebrating the heroines just comes naturally to me, however don’t you dare get it twisted I equally respect the she villain. The cool costumes, superpowers, fly gadgets, and constantly living on the edge seems so exciting and exhilarating. I’ve been meditating for years to bring about Storm’s ability to create bad weather in a blink of an eye, or for all of Wonder Woman’s cool jewelry to just poof and appear in a puff of purple fairy dust inside my jewelry case one fine morning. Don’t even get me started on the endless possibilities for Dianna’s lasso! In a perfect world all women should be given cat women’s whip to cat nap and administer punishment to the violators of the heart.
Unfortunately, that’s not the case we can’t immolate their powers, however ladies we all have our own super powers. Let’s not forget to give a shout out to some of the hunks of Hero stardom like the Black Panther or Superman. Yes the men are just as exciting, cool, and fascinating, however no matter whom your favorite powerhouse is or how many powers they possess there is always a weakness that can be exploited. As women it’s no different for us. We all have needs and wants that can be used against us to weaken our super powers. Once we have intertwined with an attractive counterpart, and it’s all peaches and cream in the early days, and then as time goes on the magic wears off. Things start to get real and life sets in. The true nature of one another starts to show and in some cases it isn’t at all like we imagined. This person that you once viewed as a dream has now become a nightmare. Once we reach this point most of us will put on our capes and deal with the situation accordingly, however there is this one person that is hard for us to shake. I know you know whom I speak of. That one love interest that was right for all the wrong reasons. If you don’t have a person that falls into this category, then you just haven’t lived long enough, but stay tuned.
Even though we know that he will hurt us, not value us, and contribute nothing positive to the soul for some reason you still can’t resist talking yourself into giving him one more chance. Now the justifications and excuses start; maybe it will be different this time, he’s really not a bad person, and the sex is so amazing it has to be the real thing. In other encounters we will even try to blame ourselves; If I didn’t nag him so much, perhaps a little weight loss will make him want to take me out more, being more adventurous in bed will keep him interested. Despite how we try to dress it up, or rationalize his shortcomings we still end up disappointed. He may not be a bad guy, still doesn’t make him right for you.
The passion is great, however in other aspects of the relationship the energy level is lack luster. On some level the two of you are just off balance and you sense it because it’s an ingredient that your personal formula for happiness requires. Even though this can sometimes be easier said than done we have to accept that certain things just aren’t meant to be.
Acceptance is key, acceptance of you, acceptance of the truth as it is, and not how we wish it could be. This is a much better option than making alterations to yourself so much so until one day you don’t know who you are anymore. I will assure all of you ladies from personal experience that if you decide to put on your cape, assert, and trust your power you can avenge yourself. Now that the caper is completed, stop beating up on yourself, and or trying to replace him with someone new. Stand still, and review your mistakes and learn from them. Figure out what your soul is yearning for, and then gift you with whatever is missing. Taking time to fill that hole with love and fulfillment of self is the only real defense against Kryptonite. While your heart is on the mend, stay busy, take a class, and spend time dating yourself. Allow you to be loved on by friends and family, and then love them back. Be one hundred to yourself, forgive yourself, and then in time forgive him.