May 31, 2020
Do you remember when you were young, while at school or summer camp, and the teacher announced that it was craft time? For me, that teacher was Ms. Ali, and she wasn’t just glamorous but also fun. I would become so excited to create, color, draw, and glue things together. My friends and I always made sure that we got the table in front of the class so that we would always have the first crack at the supplies.
I can think of a dozen art projects that I made over the years, but the most exciting and useful skill to this date was how to create paper chain dolls. I couldn’t believe my eyes when Ms. Ali drew a doll at the end of a piece of paper, and then folded it, and cut out the shape of a doll. The feeling that came over me when Ms. Ali unfolded those dolls on a chain was so magical. My crew and I had just learned how to create and duplicate any image that we wanted. All it required was for us to trace the blueprint, and then make carbon copies.
I’m often taken back to that amazing moment in Ms. Ali’s class, however it saddens me now. When I look around and see so many carbon copies in my gender. The power in being an individual with a strong appreciation of self has been lost. Just being yourself should be enough, without falling for the trap that has been set for you. Some how the belief has become that we all as women have to operate on the same frequency of the cookie-cutter phenomenon to be considered beautiful and sexy. I wonder which cookie-cutter design was chosen for us to emulate, and who decided that this particular model represents the ideal women.
Well, I implore to you ladies to recalibrate your way of thinking and subscribe to true self-appreciation. There is a feeling of freedom and power in being proud of who you are. Truly loving yourself inside out, rather than outside in. Learning to celebrate ourselves, and each other’s differences. The old adage goes that variety is the spice of life. If all women start to look the same, then the feminine soup will end up being a very bland recipe.
The only true way to really feel confident in self is to love and accept the original blueprint. Your real reflection in the mirror looking back at you, and not trying to mirror an image. One women unilaterally whole.